American Love: The Male Side to The City Rose's "Modest is Hottest"

WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTENT IS AN HONEST MALE COMMENTARY ON THE TITLE TOPIC.

I look forward to the day when Valentine's Day becomes a day that I meticulously plan out a month in advance, and spend money and time on getting it right. However, that day is not yet; and so for me, today falls in the category of "irrelevant". Thus, I feel I have the right to comment on this celebration of American love

Dating is now the norm for the post-, and indeed, even pre-pubescent American. Our society would look at me and go "You're abnormal, you're 17 and have never dated". Conversely, I would look at our society and say "You're abnormal. I'm 17 and not married yet, and you think that's normal." Seriously, name me a historical period (besides the last 100 years in the West) in which it was not abnormal for a 17-year old to not be married.

Normally I would ask how we got here; but the answer to that question would literally take hundreds of pages; but I will say this: It was not accidental.

Now, I subtitled this "The Male Side to The City Rose's "Modest is Hottest". Don't worry, I'm getting to that, I promise.

Before I make this next statement, ladies, I just want to be clear: I am not insulting you,

I am not demeaning your intelligence. It is just a reality:

Females have no concept of what goes on inside the male mind. There is just no category in your mind for the battles that go on inside of ours. This is so true that if I had my way, every girl in the world would have read Every Young Man's Battle

Frankly ladies, you're beautiful to look at. That's why Christian men must constantly fight the battles that most of you are blissfully unaware of. (I say most because I know that there are those women who are not unaware, and who use their awareness to their advantage.)

With this in mind, I can now get to the point, namely, why The City Rose was correct. Girls, you have absolutely no idea how attractive modesty is. It separates you from the rest of our society, and that is attractive. When a girl consistently dresses modestly; that says to a guy that she is a woman of morals and standards. That will get the attention of even the lowest-character guys, and that's a promise

The flip side of that is this: Immodesty is highly attractive, and it will get a girl the attention she wants...from the wrong kind of guy. When a girl dresses immodestly, the higher-character guys will notice, and they will mark her off his mental list of potential mates. Count on it.

All this to say: Guys, in the end, your struggles are your responsibility; no matter how the ladies choose to dress. Girls, it is much appreciated when you make that easier. Not saying you can't dress attractively; because that is, well, unattractive. But, when you walk the line of dressing both attractively and modestly...

That's hot.